Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Conversation #4: An unexpected realization on the path to success

What do you get when you possess confidence, drive, surround yourself with great mentors— oh and not to mention have a degree from The Wharton School of Business mixed with a bit of luck?  SUCCESS
 
I sensed early on in my recent conversation with Ellen Robinson, Principal of The Robinson Group, a business and leadership coaching practice based in Denver, that Ellen meant business.  How else could she have managed to become President of Ascent Sports, owners of the Denver Nuggets and Colorado Avalanche at just 35 years old?  [The Denver Nuggets and Colorado Avalanche are now owned by Kroenke Sports.]
 
What can we learn from Ellen Robinson’s climb to the top?  Lots of things— including something very surprising and refreshing.
 
Growing up middle class, the eldest of two girls, Ellen had a very supporting and normal upbringing.  As luck would have it, she was surrounded by successful professionals within her community very early on.  Exposure to those role models planted the seed for Ellen’s climb to the top; she set her sights high from a young age.  
 
Combining Ellen’s natural drive and ambition with her family’s unwavering support, it was no surprise that she ended up at The Wharton School studying Marketing and Finance. Hard work got her there; but hard work was not enough to land her first job out of college. That took some luck. During Ellen’s senior year, Frito Lay was interviewing graduate students on her campus.  Even though she was an undergrad, she managed to procure a slot on their interview schedule. Subsequently, Ellen landed her first job as Assistant Brand Manager with Frito Lay located in Dallas, Texas.
 
Whether she knew it then or not, Ellen was following some of her own advice she'd given when I asked her what she would tell a young woman interested in moving up the corporate ladder. 
 
 “Get in a position where you can affect the company’s bottom line and develop your leadership skills”, says Ellen. “This could be in such areas as sales or line management”. 
 
 After three years of successfully increasing market share and sales for Frito Lay packaged goods, Ellen felt it was time for a change.  She and her husband relocated to Denver, Colorado— a city she felt better fit her lifestyle.
 
Finding herself in a new city; a new start, Ellen was looking forward to pursuing her entrepreneurial ambitions.  “I’ve always had an entrepreneurial spirit” explains Ellen, “stemming from running lemonade stands as a young girl.”
 
But sometimes even the best plans can be thrown off course unexpectedly.  One of Ellen’s mentors she met while working at Frito Lay reached out to Ellen when he learned she was living in Denver.  He asked her if she was interested in working as the Area Marketing Manager for Pepsi-Cola based out of Denver.  While it was Ellen’s intention to start an entrepreneurial venture, this unexpected opportunity seemed right at the time. She seized the opportunity.  Remember-never burn your bridges from jobs you leave and stay in touch with former colleagues and mentors— you never know what opportunities may arise because of such connections.  Look what doors opened for Ellen by following this rule.  
 
Continuing her self-imposed rule of setting her sights high, Ellen made her ambitions clear at Pepsi-Cola.  She strived to move into other positions requiring increased responsibility and exposure and she was not shy in letting upper management aware of her goals.  Knowing this, I was surprised to learn that at one point in her career with Pepsi-Cola, she actually took a step down by accepting a position with less responsibility while at the same time allowing her more exposure in other key areas of the company.  As part of her strategic master plan of moving up, this move afforded her invaluable experience in the company’s strategy, operation and sales.  Ellen’s luck continued. Six months after that step down, the head of sales left the position allowing Ellen the opportunity to take on additional responsibility.  Unaware of it at the time, her increased responsibility and varied experiences would culminate in both a preparation for a major career transition and a realization that would catch her by surprise.

When the position of General Manager of the Pepsi-Cola Bottling Company in Denver opened, Ellen saw this as her golden opportunity.  The thought of running the third largest bottling operation in the country enticed her.  However, this big step up for Ellen would require bold action.  Instead of backing away from this intimidating opportunity, Ellen seized the moment; making it known she was interested in the position.  Such a bold course of action landed her an interview.  But not just any interview.

Typically, Pepsi-Cola would groom someone for a position of this magnitude; allowing them to get their feet wet before moving them into such a prominent position.  Because of this and Ellen’s young age, she was required to fly to New York to interview with Pepsi Company’s President and CEO.  To Ellen, this was not just an interview— this was her opportunity to meet her “hero” in person.  For years, Ellen had aspired to become just like this woman. 

Ellen walked away from the interview with not only the job but something quite unexpected; the realization that she did not aspire to be like her hero.  While she was still inspired by the woman’s accomplishments and career success, Ellen realized what her hero had given up to get there.  There was no work-life balance; the job was all consuming.  Ellen made a commitment right then and there to consciously weave balance into her career as she continued down her path to success.

Are there other departments or positions within your company that you aspire to?  However they might be a step up— you may feel like you are not completely qualified or lack the experience so you aren’t willing to express interest?  Just think if Ellen didn’t speak out, step up, and take a risk for the position of General Manager.  She may not be where she is today. Don’t let fear hold you back from pushing forward in your career.

Ellen was highly successful in her new position with Pepsi-Cola.  Because of her accomplishments and client contacts made while at Pepsi-Cola, she was approached by the executive team at Ascent Sports, at the time owners of the Denver Nuggets and Colorado Avalanche, for the position of President.  Ellen seized this opportunity.  Her luck had continued.  Do you feel stuck in your current role or company?  Have you lost your enthusiasm you bring to your job?  Now is not the time to put less effort into your job; now is the time to work harder than ever.  Continue with high quality work because this defines your personal brand.  This sets the stage for your next move in your career path.  You never know what opportunities may come along from clients or contacts that you interact with each day and if you’re not putting 100% into your current job and defining your personal brand, these opportunities may pass you by.

After two years spent as President of Ascent sports, Ellen could no longer hold her entrepreneurial spirit back.  From what she learned in the arena of high level sporting events, Ellen developed a software technology geared towards the meetings and events industry.  Unlike lemonade stands this venture was not without risk; this was big time.  Ellen connected with another one of her mentors who knew the venture capitalist arena.  Through his guidance and a lot of networking, Ellen secured $4 million which allowed her to move from business plan to reality.  However, this business start-up failed after three years.  Ellen took it in stride; learning more valuable lessons.

“I did the best I could knowing what I knew at the time” says Ellen.  “I’m proud of myself, never look back, and have no regrets.”

Have you had a recent failure lately?  Maybe something didn’t go as planned?  Do what Ellen did and look at your failure as a learning experience and use what you learned to move forward down your path to success.

Feeling tired and “out of balance”, Ellen took time off to spend with her family and to do some soul searching.  “I took a lot of time thinking about how hard I wanted to work, how long, and in what industry” says Ellen.  “I decided I wanted to help people develop."

Ellen started The Robinson Group— a business and leadership coaching service where she serves as Principal today.  Ellen focuses on helping business executives become more effective in the workplace.  Of course she stresses the importance of work-life balance to her clients—something near and dear to her heart.  By remaining true to herself and taking time to figure out how she wanted to work and live, Ellen truly has found success and happiness.  And of course a little bit of luck along the way helped too.

So what can we learn from Ellen’s climb to the top?

1.      Importance of mentors— looking back at Ellen’s journey, it appears that a mentor was involved at most key turning points in her career path, whether passing a job opportunity her way or assisting with advice and guidance.  If you don’t have mentors, start reaching out.
2.      Risk taking— Ellen was not afraid to step out of her comfort zone in order to move up in her career and ultimately change careers.  Are you willing to take a risk?
3.      Strategic thinking— sometimes a career path unfolds naturally and sometimes it takes some strategic thinking and soul searching.  If you are on a career path, decide where you see yourself in the future and map out a course of action to get there.  Don’t have a career path?  Return to #1— get a mentor to help guide you.

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Surround yourself with people who support you

As you may have noticed I've been slacking off in the post department lately.  I went through a time last month where I lost all confidence and enthusiasm for this project.  However I still managed to muster enough energy to push on with my third conversation— and I'm so glad I did.  I discovered something unexpected and something very important.  [If you missed Conversation #3 with Celia Slater, Executive Director, NCAA Women Coaches Academy check out my April 25 post].

I had never met Celia before.  She didn't know me.  We were introduced via email by a colleague of mine who used to work with Celia when she was head women’s basketball coach at Lynn University.  So when I spoke to this "complete stranger" over the phone I was taken aback by her interest in my project [quite honestly she had more interest in my project at that time than I did].  She thought it was a wonderful endeavor and was excited and honored to take part.  [Honored?  I was the one that was honored that she wanted to participate].  Not only did her personal story inspire me; she encouraged me to continue down this path of “conversations”.  After we spoke, I found a renewed energy for this project and more importantly discovered something that gave me chills and stirred my soul.

A few weeks before my conversation with Celia, I received a phone call from an old high school friend. It was completely out of the blue; I hadn’t talked to her in nearly five years however we’ve always seemed to be able to pick up just where we left off and this time was no exception.  I was glad she called and was looking forward to catching up.   I was excited to fill her in on this project, my “vision” of myself as I approach the next phase of my life and how my project ties into my metamorphosis.  [My biggest goal on this journey of conversations is that I finish what I started and hopefully discover a few things about myself; and of course I hope to motivate you to continue to move forward down your path toward success].

As our conversation unfolded a strange thing happened.  I found myself hesitant to tell my longtime friend the vision I have created for myself.  I felt awkward making this “declaration” to my friend whom I’ve known for over 25 years.  Why can’t I get my words out?  I’ve declared my vision to others lately with ease and confidence and they don’t even know me as well [I will come back to this thought later].  But I finally did it; I declared my vision— out loud; over the phone.  There was a brief silence and then my friend commented “now what is your purpose in this? Don’t you think you’re better off spending your time and energy elsewhere?  All of a sudden I was back in high school— with my big hair, neon pants and gold, metallic shoes [believe it or not this was actually cool back then]. And for the first time in my life I saw how her words cut me down.   Looking back at our friendship, I never really got her true support on things.  She always found a way to knock me off my pedestal or discourage me from trying something new.  I must have known this on an unconscious level and that’s why I was so hesitant to declare my bold, new vision.  She never truly respected me; she actually never really got me— I always dealt with it because that’s just how it always was.  But at that moment I realized that she will never get me or the person that I’ve become and am striving to be, much less support it.  And now I have the choice to react to this situation differently because I am not who I used to be.  Maybe those “strangers” that I’ve declared my intentions to lately actually know me- the person I have become and am striving to be because there is no past history between us.  They see me for who I am now and that's why it was easier for me to declare my vision to them rather than to my longtime friend.

I couldn’t wait to get off the phone; when I did I found myself crying uncontrollably, reflecting on my life and oddly enough my mother.  In that moment I finally understood what my mom has been experiencing for quite some time now.  My mother is a talented and gifted writer.  Just some of her accomplishments include stories published in Chicken Soup for the Soul, Highlights for Children, McCalls, and The Crafts Report in addition to authoring/illustrating three published children’s books and an adult novel.  However her sister never asks about her writing; never expresses an interest in her stories.  She never congratulates or encourages my mom.  To her, my mother is just “Porky” [her childhood nickname].  My mother is just her sister and that’s all she will ever be to her.  She doesn’t see my mother for the author she is today; for the person she has become. 

So what do you do when your friends don’t encourage you?  When they don’t jive with your vision anymore?  When they don’t know you anymore?  Some friends come into your life at certain times and for certain reasons.  However as you grow and change sometimes that friendship doesn’t serve its purpose anymore.  You may find that your “friend” is no longer supporting your new vision of you, or the new goals you are trying to achieve, or the person you’ve become.  Maybe they’re not supporting the new you anymore because they only see the older version of you; maybe they’re not supportive because it will force them to take a look at themselves and their ways of doing things.  Whatever the reason, you have to decide if that friendship is working for you now.  It might be time to cut the cord with some friendships that have become toxic; or it might take you accepting the fact that you are not going to receive support from that friend as you become the new you. You can still be friends but your relationship won't be like the past.

When it comes to family it’s a bit more complicated, however it boils down to the fact that you have to envision the person you want to become and you must surround yourself with those friends and family members who see you for who you truly are and aspire to be.  And you also may find support from unexpected sources— from people that you don’t know very well.  However these acquaintances see and know the real you because they are not constrained by your past.  This support might come from members of a club you recently joined, from complete strangers who have been reading your blog and actually post a comment; or from someone you met in a class that you just started.

Visualize who and what you want to be and surround yourself with those who see you in that role.  Don’t let an old friend or family member steer you off course just because they only see you for who you were

You owe it to yourself to become the person you were meant to be.

I've picked myself back up from my phone conversation with my "friend", dusted myself off, and I'm back on track thanks to the encouragement I continue to receive from those like Celia Slater.  Hang in there with me...I have more conversations in the works.  This journey is a learning process— I'm discovering that these conversations take more back and forth than expected and I want to give my interviews the time and respect they deserve and in turn offer some great content for you.  I appreciate your patience as I discover the "art of journalism".  More conversations to come!